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I’m writing about your 2/2/2 rule from Finding the One Online.
Since you originally came up with it, the online experience has changed significantly when it comes to email.
Most guys were writing one line emails that said, “Hey, you’re hot! I, on the other hand, really enjoyed online dating because I chose to slow down when everyone else was speeding up.
While other guys were angling for quick coffee dates and pushing to get laid, I just wrote a few more emails on the dating site, moved to regular email for a few emails, scheduled a phone call and a follow up, and THEN set up a first date.
At that point in time – merely a week later – we would feel so comfortable with each other that a first date would feel like a second date.
I told women to apply this principle to online dating in my Finding the One Online program in 2008.
Listen, I hold no judgment for anyone who doesn’t like the old way. There are men who will be glad to call you on his commute home.
My point is that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to online dating, but if you’re unhappy doing it one way, you’d be wise to consider another way. If you don’t – if you say it’s impossible – I predict a lot more swiping and texting in your future, all because you insist that you have no choice in the matter. Here are a bunch of other women who followed my old-school ideas – and discovered men who would email, call, plan and pay – all because it was fun and in their best interest. As a guy I want to do this to see if there is some basic compatibility and as you say, it gives us something to talk about on the first date. This hasn’t been much a part of my experience as I find it very awkward to talk to a person over the phone I haven’t met in person.
Most people decry the shallow, impersonal approach of swiping and texting. The visual cues are very important (even when you pick up on them sub-consciously) in a personal conversation.
Thank you, Barbara, for the email, and for the reminder to my readers that, yes, in fact, times change, advice changes, and even things that are called “rules” are really more like “guidelines.”To recap, for those of you who aren’t aware of the 2/2/2 Rule.
It was something I came up with when I was a single guy in the early 2000’s. ” and, as a result, struggled mightily with online dating.