Dating an ex whos cheated before
I disagree with the notion that "if you can't trust you just aren't ready for another relationship" or the idea that "you missed the warning signs that your previous significant other was cheating, maybe this time you will wise up." Maybe this is a harsh characterization of what I have read thus far but it sure rubbed me the wrong way. Believe me also, and I say this as much to the other people who have answered this question as to the OP: deciding to trust someone is not some logical thing like choosing to go out and deciding to buy a loaf of bread. You pretend you trust, you act like you do trust and eventually when you see that it's OK, your trust is not shattered for a day, for a week, for a year, for two years, those behaviors will become a genuine reality.
Your ability to trust, after it has been shattered is something you want back goddamn badly. This is the only way I have managed to rebuild some amount of trust. They are yours, there is nothing wrong with them, and you can only really control how you act upon them.
If you can get past your pain and hurt and want to make it work, I say definitely give it a try.
What’s most important is NOT what he wants or what your friends want, but what YOU want, and can live with.
Even if you get over his cheating and get back together, if you don’t deal with the root cause it’ll show up again in some other form of “relationship problem”.
In short, almost every relationship is savable if both parties are willing to work on it.
Some couples can get past the betrayal and stay together, and others can’t.
There are several reasons to give a guy who cheated a chance. Beyond that, cheating usually happens when a relationship isn’t fulfilling someone’s needs, be them emotional or physical.He apologized but I was so hurt that I broke up with him.He kept in touch sending me emails and doing all he can do to get me back. For the most part though, that one affair may not be a great indication as to who this guy is. Well, what if you found out this same guy, who is totally into you and perfect, had cheated on his significant other in the past? And yes, there are some people who are just flat-out cheaters.