Dating a guy with social anxiety
Sometimes the relationship is too difficult for you to manage; sometimes it ends up feeling like it isn’t worth the trouble at all.
This is something you are going to have to decide for yourself, as we all have our own limits.
Just to give you an idea of the potential catastrophe, on the side of my Klonapin bottle it says that mixing with alcohol may cause "erratic personality changes." Awesome.
Your friends without anxiety don't get it and think you're being ridiculous. " Yes, thank you for clearing that up, it IS a stupid thing to have anxiety about, because I do have an anxiety disorder. You indulge in magical thinking, often consumer-based, before the date. Buying and wearing this overpriced Gwynethy cardigan. If you go on a dinner date too early for your comfort level, you can hardly eat and the guy assumes you have an eating disorder. But for now, you scare the shit out of me, so I'm slowly nibbling on a lettuce leaf with fear in my eyes. You drink to calm your nerves, and since you can't really eat (see above), you get really shitfaced really fast. Even if you have pre-planned (#3), these things do slip your mind occasionally.
Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up!
You will often find yourself reaching your limit, but you’re not going to want to show him or her you’re feeling anxious and/or stressed because you don’t want to add fuel to the fire. You have to plan way ahead to figure out your tranquilizer/wine situation. You're inevitably teased for your compulsive nervous habits. Asking me to stop is like asking a normal human being to stop breathing, or stop talking loudly about politics at a party where nobody cares. You're never really excited for dates because you're too busy obsessing and being worried. One glass of prosecco and I'll turn into Buffalo Bill from Silence of the Lambs.Those who suffer from anxiety aren’t proud they do. At the same time, romantic relationships are not that different from other relationships; all relationships take work to maintain.They don’t want to feel the way they feel, nor do they want to have their thoughts running rampant around their minds. Offer a helping hand, but if they continuously refuse, leave them be. If you’re dating someone with anxiety, your relationship will take a bit more work to maintain.