Avoid dating these 4 types of guys
As New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author, April Masini tells Bustle, “Ask yourself what you’re getting out of these relationships.Some people date the emotionally unavailable to rescue them.When you give your all into a relationship or to someone who isn’t giving anything back in return, it sucks, but it's also a hard pattern to break — but you can certainly do it.According to Psychology Today, women who fall for unavailable people have some “profound insecurities and self-esteem issues.” It sounds harsh, but the thinking is that women continuously pursue emotionally unavailable partners with one unconscious motive: When the guy or girl finally comes around and commits, she’ll be somehow validated. While it may indicate self-esteem issues, it also showcases perseverance.
According to Limongello, “If a person wants to date you but refuses to identify your relationship with a label, this can be an indicator that he or she is emotionally unavailable.According to Boykin, “The trick is to seek partners who are capable of a range of emotions from the outset.They can get frustrated but still talk to you about it or become quiet without shutting you out.As Psychology Today further points out, “though this approach isn’t ideal, her behavior reflects the fact that she is patient, hard working, and committed to something she cares about.” All of which, are of course, really great qualities in not only a partner but a person. They’re attractive, they’re fun, and you get along really well. Everything seems be pretty close to perfect — at the beginning anyway.A few months later, you start to realize that you may be really falling for this person.